Discovering Sam Harris has been like uncorking a bottle. Because of him, now I am finding a lot of influential philosophers and speakers. One of the reasons why I was a conspiracy theorist for so long was because instead of anyone explaining why they were wrong, people would simply dismiss them as kooks. Sam Harris and others like him actually take the time to deconstruct an argument and actually discuss the ideas versus name calling.
Even though I disagree with Sam Harris on a lot, if I could meet someone like him, we would be friends instantly simply because I would love the conversations. I don't even think you necessarily need to be super smart. You simply need to be able to admit what you know and don't know and be honest about it. A huge frustration of mine has been getting into a conversation with someone only to have it boil into a heated argument. Then the other person will just give up, say I'm right, and then ignore the conversation we just had. I personally learn more from arguing with people because it helps me get out certain logic traps that I've held onto for years. Sadly, I have only had really good conversations like this with my younger brother, but we tend to agree on a lot of things. Fortunately, I can learn a lot just from watching Sam Harris and other philosophers on YouTube, and I highly recommend it.